Since social networking plays such a large part in our day-to-day interactions, we want our profiles to reflect who we are and where we’re going. There’s much to consider changing after a breakup, from photos of you and the ex to the extent to which you share things with mutual friends. First of all, take it easy. Don’t go change your profile as soon as it’s over. Stay offline for a spell and collect yourself. You don’t want to do anything rash. Remember your friends are on there and that anything you do on Facebook is the equivalent to shouting from the rooftop. Like any major life event you want to get everything into perspective so you can keep your social networking light.

1. Alright, now calmly log into your account. View your profile and in the top right corner click Edit Profile. Changing the relationship status may be the hardest part. Don’t bother with the other options, be honest with yourself. If it’s time to select Single, do it, even if It’s complicated. You’re either together or you’re not, and the sooner you rip off that bandage the closer you’ll be to bouncing back.

2. How much do you want your ex to know? You must consider what you want mutual friends and the ex’s family to have access to. Under the Account drop-down menu you’ll see the option Privacy Settings. Click Custom and customize settings. Here you can limit all activity on your account. It’s not all or nothing, you can specify exactly who can see and comment on things you post, get tagged in, or what other people share on your wall. Be careful not to “punish” people. This is about having some much-needed space between you and the ex. Would it be best if they don’t know who you’re spending your time with or what you’re doing now? Sometimes we wait to secure these privacy boundaries until we’re already getting into another relationship. Don’t wait.

3. Old photos of the ex can be a tricky thing. Do you delete them or not? Personally I know a number of people who resent seeing old pictures of themselves on their ex’s Facebook. Think about your future relationships, how might it make a future-significant-other feel. Do you crop the ex out of all the pictures? No picture of yourself is worth cropping your ex out of. It’s a brand new day, time to look forward and get rid of the old photos. What about the one with the two of you standing in front of the Coliseum? Look, if you’re really attached to the photo, take it down and think about uploading it to your profile again in the future when the dust has settled.

4. What about photos you and the ex are tagged in that belong to other people? Because sometimes people post rather unflattering photographs of us, the steadfast rule for tagging is that is: If the person doesn’t want to be identified in this photo that’s their business. It’s nothing personal. Someone might think it’s a very lovely picture of you and your ex on the ski slopes, but when you look at you see heartbreak. If you don’t want to be associated with the picture, untag yourself and move on.

5. Now for the big question: Do you unfriend the ex? This is obviously something everyone must decide for themselves. You can always set a myriad of boundaries for them using the Privacy Settings. You may manage to stay Facebook friends, and yet not real-time friends. Sometimes you have to unfriend, even if only to break the tie and get some peace of mind. You can always extend the invitation again in the future. I personally feel lucky to have cyber-friendships with my ex’s, otherwise I wouldn’t know who or where they are today. In fact refriending ex’s has become an olive branch in breakups today. It’s as if to say: “I’m over it and I hope you are, too!”

The Science of  Heartbreak,You can blame it on your ex,but whats  really making you hurt and your body ache is coming from within you.

Since the two of you split up.your head has felt like a helium balloon about to burst,a family of squirrel seems to have moved into your stomach,your hearts feels as it its clamped in a vise,and though your emptied bottle. of the natural sleep aid melatonin,you havent caught a wink in a week ,no question about it,losing of your one and only is a bitch.but stop clutching your chest.the real pain is coming inside your head.if you think you hate being dumped,your brain hates even more.the region of it that lights up when your physical agony also goes haywire when you suffer social rejection.Says Naomie Eisenberger Ph.D she says  that your head  is signaling  to your body  that being dumped actually hurts. your new singledom isnt helping any either.when your'e inlove certain areas in your gray matter are happily awash in Dapominine and Oxytocin,hormones that giving you pleasure and contentment. but when your guys suddenly take off your supply of those feel good natural chemicals start to tumble.leaving you more vulnerable to a whole herd uncompromising stress hormones,

During any upsetting experiemce your brain pumps out cortisol ,epinepherine and other stress hormones,which in limited quantity,help you react quickly to dangerous situation. (like when car is cutting off on the highway)however long term trauma such as heratbreak ,accumulating amounts can turn harmful.an abundance of cortisol tells your brain to send too much blood to your muscle causing them to t ense up.ostensibly for swift action,but your not leaping anywhere and as a result your plaqued with swollen muscle that can lead to headache ,stiifneck.and awful squeezing sensation in your chest.cortisol also divert bloods aways from your digestive track.leaving you with some GI Unpleasantness,and to add insult to your injury,an overkill stress hormonescan impede your immune system,making you mopre to roque bacteria nad viruses_hence the all too common post relationship cold.

The particular kind of walloping you suffer also has something to do with how your body reacts to stress,Says Dr.Laura Miller M.D director of womens health Boston hospital.if you have a sensitive stomach you could be prone to break up cramps,appetite loss,or diarrhea.if you have ashma,you might reach your inhaler moreoften.
gobs or stress hormones can send your bronchial tubes into overdrive.and if you happen to have addictive personality,you may feel  as shakey as heroin junkiein rehab.becaues the area of your brain thats processing craving and addictions is also activated by break ups.

The good news you may feel emotional trampled for awhile.you can atleast  ease the body pain,and we dont mean it late night clubbing,nacho binges and other indulgences,which can lead to more physical woes.such as rapid heartbeat and extreme fatigue.instead take over the counter med for pounding head and squessy stomachh or better yet teach yourself some relaxation techniques(like deep breathing)to calm your nervous system.and curb those wild stress hormonesby pulling yourself off the couch for some aerobics exercise.working out prompt your brain to realease uplifting endorphins,better yet take a trsah talking friend with you.camaredie can incite a much needed pop of your missing oxyticin.

"One thing you shouldnt do is lock yourself in the room"self imposed exile will only makes thing worse" better getting back into some of your favorite past time and activities,because doing anything enjoyable can elprev your brains dapomine system.if u cant disaasociate your old passion from the moments  spent with your ex.take it as an opportunity  to try something completely new ,like that drawing class and bicycling you been coveting(considering how hed look in spandex) what ever cheers the mind may help cure the body.